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Failure and rejection. Two of my most feared things (surely I am not alone here) ⁠
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I realised that too often I was waiting for certainty until I would make a move. This meant there were so many potential missed opportunities purely due to fear. Often it was more worry on what others would think of me. Interestingly the people I admired and respected the most were those who just went for it, whether they failed or got rejected didn’t affect this. (or is it effect? I still battle with this and I was alwayz good at inglish) I kinda respected them more for copping the rejection or fucking up and going again.⁠
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Some of the most amazing things that have happened to me in the past have come from taking the risk; quitting my full time job (I have gone through patches where I am literally living off rice and tuna so it ain’t all glory I tell you) but it was one of the best things I have done; approaching the girl I thought wouldn’t look twice at me - look this has gone both ways many times but the one yes here and there was worth the other no’s (see plural)⁠
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We are constantly fed fear based material via the media and comparisons of what success and ideals should look like which drive us into staying small and letting fear rule us. ⁠
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When I am having a moment like this I will often think to myself - when I am on my deathbed will I give a shit that I may have not got the yes every time or smashed it straight away? Hell no! Some of the most common regrets of the dying are not having the courage to live true to themselves and worrying about others expectations, not expressing themselves enough and not letting themselves be happier by getting stuck in old comfortable patterns.⁠
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Take the risk…⁠
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#risk #taketherisk #fear #live #enjoylife #fearoffailure #rejection #confidence

Now let's get the important thing out the way.. the tache.. debatable choice.⁠
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Now the second most important thing... that shit eating grin! Happiness! Who doesn’t want it? ⁠
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However unfortunately due to social/ family conditioning and some savvy marketing a lot of us are under the illusion that happiness and fulfilment will come from some external thing enter; money/ holiday/ likes on insta... You know that feeling discontent until you get the thing?⁠
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Now we have these beautiful little neurotransmitters (serotonin and dopamine) that our body creates which makes us feel good. We can call them ‘bliss’ chemicals, but these are only short lived, they are like a mini sales gimmick which cause us to search for more things to give us this feeling and thus the feeling of fulfilment once we get it quickly disappears, or we doom ourselves to endless suffering if we don’t get the ‘things’ we tell ourselves we need..⁠
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Every time we meditate within 45 seconds our body starts flooding with these bliss chemicals, naturally without anything external. Why is this good? ⁠
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I'm glad you asked, we are retraining the body that fulfilment is no longer on the other side of something outside of us, we become less dependent and more content (for no reason.. weird huh) the more regularly we do this, we balance up the level of these chemicals in our system decreasing our attachment to and need to carry out these impulses to give us this hit…⁠
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Want to feel happier and more content more often..? You know something that could help...⁠
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#meditatewhereyouare #meditatedaily #happiness #mentalhealth⁠
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This is the first guy I ever taught to meditate, and he never thought he could do it, he was 'too busy' and more interested in sipping cocktails. Let's be honest he probably also had his head a little way up his arse..? ⁠
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Damn I am happy I was able to prove him wrong, and so was he ;) and he still enjoys sipping a cocktail..⁠
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#meditatewhereyouare #janoahvankekem #learntomeditate #meditate⁠

Do you want a short lasting feeling or long term change?

Meditating every now and then can give you a short term ‘state’ change which can feel good for a little while. Doing it regularly gives you a profound ‘trait’ change. These are long term.
The brains neuroplasticity makes it possible to rewire how we operate, but we can’t expect 30 odd years of accumulation of stress, fatigue and conditioning to be worked off after a couple of sessions here and there.
Like anyone who gets results whether it be at gym, study, business..its consistency. Meditation is like gym for the brain (who doesn’t want a sexy brain?) you need more than just a one off weekend retreat or a few minutes on an app here or there.. Serious about levelling up your performance in this life? Learn to meditate regularly.

Slide into the old DM with a fuck yes, if you want to learn more about how meditation actually works.

#meditatedaily #meditatewhereyouare #consistency #performance

Ahh the freedom of not being held back by that little voice of fear and judgement... Took me a long time to actually feel comfortable with this... thinking I was doing what I wanted but still kinda worried about what everyone thought or trying to impress.. Keep an eye out for the guy carving up the promenade in short shorts and roller skates... might be me..or maybe not... #enjoylife #fuckthehaters #justforfun

Is this what ANXIETY looks like?
This guy frolicking around the beach, getting his photo taken, full of confidence....Well this was taken at a time when I’d get anxious to the point I’d feel sick before going on dates.. remember Stan from SouthPark? 😂 but not so sexy.. I’d hope it would be cancelled or I’d drink to numb and push through. It stemmed from not thinking I was good enough, but no one would have known.. Anxiety is becoming so common, the worry, the feeling of impending doom. You aren’t alone or abnormal and you can change.. I’ve used a few tools to overcome it.
1. Regular meditation has practically eradicated it at the source
2. Feel it instead of suppress it, if we push it down we store it in our body to come up again, we give it more power. By feeling it as just as a feeling and not labelling it (even as anxiety) we let it move through and out.. I’d feel it and take a deep slow breath and go fuck yeah this means I’m alive and doing something exciting that I care about!
3. You can do breathing exercises- in for 3 out for 6, pausing between and repeat
Stop missing out on life
#anxiety #anxietyawareness #enjoylife #meditatewhereyouare

De Familie... I remember these cheeky little souls reminding me of the things we lose as we grow up... notice the simple things, curiosity, trying new things, each day being a new adventure, breaking the rules, do things just for fun (no ROI), not caring what people think, cheeky playfulness... Whether I’ve ‘grown up’ is up for debate... But Funny enough lots of the above things we end up doing all the work to try bring back into our lives.. #justforfun #enjoylife #play

You know that little voice in the head saying, yeah that person is a bitch, or no don’t do that you might fail, you aren't good enough…? That's our small self talking. ⁠
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Large self sounds more like.. Well that person is just doing the best they can with what they know or yeah try it, who knows what may happen.⁠
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Our 'Large Self' comes from a place of expansion and openness, 'Small Self' from fear and contraction driven by our ego animal nature who's only interest is to keep us safe i.e. situations we can control.⁠
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Which of these you indulge in impacts our experience of the world... we attract more of what we put out.⁠
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Small self fuels negativity and separation, holding us back from expressing love or from trying something that has the potential for failure. This is not inline with our personal evolution and growth.⁠
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Serving our Large Self opens us up to new experiences, growth, love...⁠
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Daily meditation increases your awareness but if thats not your jam, you can also just check in every now and then, what are my thoughts serving at the moment?⁠
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Peace⁠
Janoah⁠
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#largeself #expansion #meditatedaily #growth #expansion⁠

The not so glamorous brain fry, group Meditation breaks in cozy rugs and generous support from @paulroos1 helping us in redefining our purpose.

I’m lucky to have two brothers by my side in @blakeworrallthompson @theonlyroos challenging each other, taking the piss and supporting the whole way through!

MoMENtum is what we are creating, and positive change for men is what we want to contribute.

Our next stop is our Melbourne presentation launch!
Link in my bio for tickets if you want to come along either for yourself or to support another! Men and women welcome to this event!

@themomentumlifestyle #purpose #beabetterman #momentum #melbourne

So now I do the kinda serious work can I still be an idiot? Well apparently I think so.. probably more regularly than needed and with one too many F bombs... In between the ‘work’, the teaching, the re-sharing of wise 🦉words and quotes, and the attempted up-levelling I gotta keep reminding myself it’s just for fun... it used to be my screen saver. I don’t have all the answers nor will I... ever... and it’s all gravy

Don’t take yourself too serious now... how do you want to look back?

#justforfun #whysoserious #enjoylife

So the old boy actually read it on the side of a water tank while driving yesterday but he felt the need to call me and share it with me so I thought I would give him the cred.⁠
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Abundance is an experience I want to call more of into my life, and I am sure something we all do in certain areas.. wealth, experience, connection etc. BUT the key is first to show some love to that which you do already have no matter how small or insignificant it may seem.... why?⁠
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I'm glad you asked. ⁠
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Because a piece of this is perception... two people look at the same thing, one sees too much, the other not enough, it's our mindset and it makes huge difference on our happiness and can offer some perspective. ⁠
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Also energetically you attract more of what you put out, if you are being grateful for what you have and creating the feeling of abundance, you will naturally attract more... it's a thing.⁠
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As you were...⁠
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#abundance #gratitude #enjoylife #mindset

What does it mean to be a man?
Well we are still working it out to be honest... and there isn’t a definitive answer. I know some of the masks I’ve put on trying to be more of a ‘man’ .. tough, in control, killing it, ladies man, joker... And what I did figure out is that when these things are forced and not natural it doesn’t feel good.

I’ve learnt you can still be vulnerable, not have your shit together and allow the true version of you to be seen and that’s more ‘manly’ than anything!! And it feels a whole lot better once you get past the fear of judgement.

Have a think about if the front you are putting on aligns with how you are really feeling or if its just you doing what you do to push through because that’s what we are supposed to do and give our mates shit if they don’t do the same... And girls, it makes it a whole lot easier if you can allow/help us to do this too... half the time it’s you we are trying to impress... #vulnerability #masculinity #mask #manup

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